Take me home

A former ritual, today I took the boys for a cruise by the Fayetteville Airport for the first time in six months. It was a meaningful drive for me as this was this route that changed my life in so many ways just six months ago. A physical impact still affecting me beyond the physical daily, I’m happy to be writing and sharing about it. For me, getting these words out represents a great deal of progress.

I was headed home to put two sleepy babes down for their afternoon_ nap. We were returning from groceries and lunch, finishing with a cruise down 71B to see the airplanes at the museum. A favorite routine, I would pull up and chat with Indra about the planes; him telling me what each of the parts were called while we all looked out for possible landings on the runway. If I was lucky, on the way home both boys would start blinking their eyes and eventually drift off to sleep. I’d gently carry them inside, feeling sleepy heads resting on my shoulders. However, this would not be one of those days. In fact, this would be the last day in several months where a car nap would be a consideration, as a quiet sleepy carseat ride would shift from a space of safety and security to a place of distress and danger. It would also be the last day, for the time being, where I would experience picking my children up with complete confidence or load them in and out of the car with ease.

The woman who hit us was more than drunk. It’s been interesting watching my anger ebb and flow with this. Drugs and erratic behavior gave her a laundry list of charges, including fleeing the scene of a multi-car collision. I first saw an accident several cars ahead in my lane. I stopped and prepared to wait for a bit. Cars were merging, traffic was heavy. Indra needed something. I turned back, reaching down for his water bottle that had dropped. Cars were clearing, time to go. With my spine twisted, I saw her out of the corner of my eye. She was in reverse, going fast. Why was she going so fast? Why is she going faster? Is she going to hit us? I reached for the horn. My head hit the seat. Kids screaming. What happened? Are they okay? The first thing I remember seeing clearly was a look of horror on a neighboring driver’s face. But our car was still moving, tires squealing, kids screaming, what was happening? I looked down. Stuck beneath our van, the driver was still trying to get away. Moving back and forth from reverse to drive, the smell of rubber burning and smoke from her tires filled the air. I couldn’t see the drivers face but I could see her arms flailing as she tried to push her airbags around. The terror was palpable. Someone has to help her, I thought. I had so much concern for her in that moment. This is one of the things that stirred anger in me the longest; that I worried about her so much and then felt pure disregard from her for the damage she was actually doing. I thought, she must be having a seizure or something, she’s really scared. And then she was free and all was still. I watched her drive away, weaving erratically and eventually out of sight without a care or concern for what she’d done. Shortly after, the sirens emerged and the flurry of black boots arrived to help.

So that’s where the story both ends and begins. Such a fleeting moment that was both over quickly and has yet to fully leave my brain and body. While the past six months have been filled with drastic recovery, I’m still in it. I posted recently about getting discharged from the neurosurgeon with excitement. What I didn’t say was he sent me off with a prosthetic shoe insert to wear for the rest of my life to stabilize my hips. This barefoot loving yoga teacher does not love that. I’m working with my body in more ways than ever, and it’s taking a lot of care and time. The most painful part has been the impact on my tiny humans who want to be picked up and held, or to practice yoga with me, or even just chase me around the house. When I wake up at night to care for Judah, my neck often freezes and shoots with pain. Then I remember to breathe. I soften, move the energy and my body follows. I pray in every moment that these boys are learning a beauty of self-care and healing during this time, rather than programming memories of a broken mother.

Beyond physical and family, my professional and financial changes have turned my world upside down. The business I built over the past six years had grown year over year and with our recent new buildout, I expected 2019 to be a time of ease and receiving. Dealing with lawyers, medical bills, insurance, all while receiving the overall disappointments and grief from the community were the last things I expected. I was shocked by the way some people treated me when I said I couldn’t do “it” anymore, including leaders in the yoga community and other business relationships. On the other hand, I’ll never forget those who were there for me and my family, regardless of business or money or what I had to offer them at the time. The experience of knowing angels will be engrained in me forever.

Through the endings and beginnings I have found a new voice. One that I am just learning how to use, though I know will be stronger and more powerful than I can imagine. I get little glimpses of the future and those glimmers are carrying me through the darkness. Most importantly, as the craziness of it all fades away, I am left with a strengthening of my faith. A currency that extends far beyond the riches of this word and is multiplying leaps and bounds through this experience. In these kinds of struggles, one can either move into despair or get closer to your spiritual truth. My relationship with mine has never been stronger. It’s taken me through something that has allowed me to unite pieces of my soul I didn’t know could come together. In words, it’s a celebration of my Christian roots and childhood upbringing, my soul’s purpose uniting with my life’s work and daily life practices. East and West uniting. In my heart, it’s more than I can describe. It’s a kind of coming home. And for that I say thank you for this day and look towards the sun rising. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Om namah shivaya gurave

To God be the glory, forever, Amen



Warning! I am a Mother

Becoming a mother hasn’t changed who I feel I am as much as it’s changed where I feel I am. The expansiveness of this world courses through my veins and as a mother I sense being rooted to this earth in a new way. I feel safer, experiencing how life enters this realm seems to lessen my own anxiety of this journey. Witnessing both the vulnerability and fierce nature of a molding spirit, I understand my memories more and can process the energies of those around me in new ways. I’m more quick to both forgive and move on, knowing the journeys we are all on in this shared existence seal us together beyond physical or emotional interaction. I’m still the same me, and as I love these tiny humans more, I am loving myself more.

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Picture taken by my husband on our first road trip as a family of 4. Three and a half weeks of adventure, struggle and miracles. The trip started with me leading a teacher training in St Louis — a prenatal program that was simultaneously the worst and best time I have had leading. It was a huge learning experience for me. Testing the waters of traveling and teaching with littles, everything has different costs and benefits. At the end of this program I’m so clear that I need to start all of my working relationships with a disclaimer. Warning! I am a mother. I have two children that still fit on my hips. At any point in time, I may pause what we are doing and tend to their needs, as it’s like we share the same air, and while we may go off and swim in different directions, when we need to refill we do. Note, Judah’s tiny lungs don’t last long. And when I come back, I will breathe new life.

Judah, Judaea, Judy, Jooddle, Jude. I must call you twelve names in a day, because you represent so many unique and deep sources of love for me. To all of these names you respond with a huge smile, and I’ve never met someone so generous as you with your joy. Thank you for coming into this family. While it pains me that we drove you across country at 10mo, your head bobbling away for hours on end, I know you signed up for this fun when you picked me to be your mom. And we did this with Indra at 3mo (through snow covered mountains — what??). So we are a little less crazy with you.

Still crazy. And I think the above disclaimer will help me to navigate my working relationships more effectively going forward. This trip wasn’t unsuccessful in that by any means, but it did shed new light for me around what I need to create. I’m only interested in this teaching gig if it means I can say I was with my kids when they needed me and they were welcome everywhere I went. This is my norm and we have many more years of yoga circles and community. A dear teacher friend (who joined the STL program) chuckles at the ideal of Indra one day realizing his childhood was not the norm — not every kid played with plastic water bellies and sang Sita Ram while mom taught yoga?

So after the program, the second leg of our travels was east to the Carolinas. This was a last-minute decision preceded by years of anticipation. Michael’s mom was born into a huge (to me) tight-knit country family in the foothills of the Asheville mountains. She’s been gone for over 15 years and while I haven’t met her in human form, I have felt very connected to her and looked forward to meeting this side of Mike’s family. I allowed myself to feel fully welcomed and accepted, something new to me and also made possible by country hospitality and regular affirmation from his family. I also arrived in my hairline, which never hurts. It was incredibly beautiful and soul-filling. It’s a special place and I look forward to going back regularly.

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More than anything I am happy to return home. I am also pleased to post on here! And grateful to be in my lips finding meaningful words and so glad to be transitioning out. I feel like the end of a lips cycle when I’ve been biting my tongue for three days is the worst! I’ll go and fantasize in my eyebrows now… 😂💋


Before spring has sprung

I can feel the buzz of the earth, the tremble of this floating ball beneath my feet, ready to burst with beautiful blossoms and begin again.

And then there’s the voice.. slow down, rest, be patience. Don’t rush life.

This moment is so precious.

We are preparing to move the studio >> saying hello to a beautiful new spot off the square. A few blocks from my house and I can’t help but grin ear to ear over when I speak of it.

I have a 4mo old (Today! Happy first quarter, Jude, my love) and a closer-to 3yo every day (Indra, you are exploding with life) that my heart aches to give everything to.

My husband is delving deep into music and expression in new ways and I so want to support him through this in all the ways I can.

The current 200hr and 300hr Trainee’s are amazing. If y’all are reading this, you’re blowing my mind with hope and love for our future. And then there’s the Prenatal program coming..

So much excitement. So much to come.

And I want to be here. And experience this. I want to rest and and heal from my birth, which is happening more each day and night. As Jude sleeps deeply I feel my body sinking into a next level of rejuvenation. It needs me to relax. It needs me to release.

The spring will come. I couldn’t stop it even if I wanted to. Be here now, my dear sweet Alexandria.

Written from my future self to me, today.

Jai ma,


On welcoming Jude with a blissful birth

2017 will always be the year we welcomed Jude Oso Pulfer. It took me many months (and possibly years..) to process the birth of my first beautiful son Indra. I love thinking about how my understandings of birth and the telling of my experiences will evolve over time.

When Jude was born, I labored physically alone for the majority of it and never felt a shed of loneliness. This was something he and I did together.

Dilation began the evening before and after updating my midwife, we attempted a night of sleep. We were all successful and all rested a fantastically full night. I will always remember the feeling of opening my eyes the next morning.. Motionless and waiting to see if a contraction would come.. It did. I was 3-4cm at this point and active labor began with a sense of wonder. I lit candles, chanted and created a contained nest for myself for many hours. The rushes that built and ceased were steady yet peaceful and I experienced presence throughout. My midwife saw me regularly and left, at my request. I felt very tuned to my body and able to both speed up and slow the process as I desired. I wanted our babe to join us after Indra’s midday nap, so I patiently waited and took my time with the labor through breath and stillness. I asked our dear photographer friend (it was also her birthday too!) to arrive at 2pm. Indra woke up just after her arrival and Jude was born just before 3pm. The photo below was snapped minutes before Jude’s birth. A couple times earlier that day, Michael walked through the room and would say, “Whoa this time is so different! It’s crazy!” It was different. They can’t even be compared. And Jude’s birth was very peaceful and soft.

The transition (when the babe travels out through the birth canal) was the most challenging turn. I am grateful for the gigantic feat that birth is and the way it finds me forcibly humbled. Without it, I know it would be nearly impossible to respect the importance of remaining in a state of rest. Which is likely my most proud piece of the puzzle that formed this birth.. The bonding, the bathing, the herbs and the treats that followed his birthday are such sense inducing memories. I don’t think I’ll ever eat a date again without remembering my first 40 days of life with Jude.

More on that later.

2017 as a family of four means a rich journey of parenting and co-piloting life with my Michael. New Years Eve is our wedding anniversary and while challenges me more every day (I think we had our biggest parenting disagreement yet earlier..) I am more confident and trusting of our roles and love every minute. Grateful to be the mama of your sons, Babe.

As I melt into the magic that was my year of a blissful birth, I find myself with a sense of limitlessness. Anything is possible and I am rich with that same sense of wonder.. what will happen? Where will this life take me? Ready and willing to flow with it and delighted to dive deep and dig in.

Om namo Lakshmi ✨


A Blessingway to Remember

Multiple times last week I said something along the lines of “I am recovering” from my blessingway. At one point a dear friend said, “I hope you never recover from that!”. And from there I was able to shift, into a space of claiming a new level of confidence and acceptance of love. Out of reaction and into creation with the beauty I was gifted.

There are many impactful activities and functions that can be planned for celebrating a mom to be — showers, parties, etc. What makes events like these special to me is the quality of interactions and the level of intention beyond the purpose of gathering. Once people arrive, once all the fancy decor is completed and the delicious food set, then what?

When these woman folk first trickled into the house there was pure giddiness in the air. I laughed so much. Amanda braided my hair, others massages me, brought me drinks and treats and were just generally playful and excited. A few of the girls began making a beautiful mandala from a carload of flowers from Dripping Springs. They worked steadily and efficiently together. 

As I became more grounded and allowed myself to ease into what was happening, I felt the room do the same. Intentional meditations and discussing my plans for the birth contributed to a next level of presence for me within the group. These were all women that I love and adore, who have played such a significant role in my life over the past few years of my transition to motherhood, to have their presence together in my honor was a blessing in itself. Of course, the words and connections took that much deeper.

After nourishing food and beautiful conversation, the energy of the room continued to ground as we moved toward a sacred circle. Quite a few had to leave to be with their families; they offered their kind goodbyes together with the group, and after a container was held with candles and ceremony. Prayers, chants and deep shares commenced. My cup was filled over and over again with the beautiful words that came from the mouths of my friends. Speaking about our relationships, of birthing, of mothering, of challenges and inspirations. I am so grateful for the heartfelt and honest sharing that was offered in that space.

I still found myself at times closing my heart, almost as if it were too much to bare. And after, my story of “recovering” was absolutely a reflection of me shying away from the experience. Why can powerful love be so hard to take? This is not what I consciously chose. I chose to love and be loved beyond my capacity for it in this moment. I chose to accept the boundless love that my children, my family and my friends contribute to my life in each moment. And to return it in more ways than I even know.

I chose to find new ways to open, to give and to recieve. I have been loving this visualization of Hanuman opening his heart. There’s a sweet story about him holding his chest open to show his devotion. His passionate love is known to provide him with super-human powers, the ability to literally move mountains.

As much as I set my mental and spiritual intentions to open to love, I know there’s little I’ll be able to control with this upcoming birth. My heart is about to open further in more ways than I can imagine, of that I am sure.

May you feel the love around you today and trust that the more you open, the more you receive.

om hrim hrim suryaya namah,


The Sunday chant, to warm your heart, on this crisp October morning.

Fall rhythms, routines and renewal

When I catch a moment of the fall breeze brushing against my skin, a tiny ping of fear creeps up the back of my neck. Cool weather means a baby is coming. Soon to expel his or herself from my womb and into this world.. I am confident, secure and above all trusting. And I know this upcoming process requires the deepest kind of surrender; physically, mentally and spiritually.

My biggest preparation for this birth is centered around family. The first time around I was becoming a mother, a birth in itself. This time I am a mother welcoming a new soul into our home. It feels wonderful. I have told many how much easier this pregnancy has been. Watching not to say these things in front of Indra; he is always listening and I am looking to avoid comparison. The two pregnancies are completely different journeys. And experience makes a world of difference. Both my body and my mind understand so much more now.

This fall has already brought a beautiful grounding rhythm into our daily lives. A summer filled with spontaneous river trips and  late night adventures with friends has come to an end. I am so loving this time of shifting to reflect on abundance, harvest what has been created and move toward rest and renewal.

One of our favorite family tools is our daily and weekly rhythms sheets. Pictured below, this snapshot tells Indra what key things we complete every day and in what order. He adores it. He doesn’t always want to brush teeth, but this sheet makes it possible to offer him consistency and awareness. It also gives me more confidence that as I transition to bonding and healing stage with this second child, Indra will have stability in his daily routines.

For now I am spending every moment I can enjoying the end of this chapter — the past three years have been the most amazing of my life yet. Welcoming Indra to Earth with Michael has been such an honor. My reflections turn into sobs at this point. While it feels hard to say goodbye to this current life, I know the next level only has more amazing things in store.

Add in a week of Kitchari, Abyhanga (self-massage) and home/nesting projects and this fall is off to a great start. I had the pleasure of sharing my favorite elements of an Ayurvedic lifestyle with our 300hr Advanced YTT group last week. It has been such a pleasure working with a powerful group of amazing women. Deeply nourishing and I can’t wait to share more as our program unfolds.

Ready when you are, baby. You’re coming into a beautiful community full of love, light and possibility.


Started in my lips, finished in my clitorus. 

A Step on the Journey of Uncovering Personal Trauma

It’s tough for me to post this as in many ways it feels so incomplete, so personal and there are many more things I’d like to say about trauma, yoga therapy, etc. And this blog is about the personal process for me, looking to share what’s going on for me as a means to empower others, so here it goes. 

I stood on the hot sidewalk and watched the events unfolding at my home from a distance. I didn’t want to go closer. Paramedics and police officers went in and out while blue lights flashed across the house. I remember thinking “This is it. You aren’t going to survive this.” In whatever language my toddler mind could process at that point; I didn’t think I was going to live much longer. The cycles of abuse around me continued to grow stronger by day. The trash can was an indication of what lie ahead. Empty glass bottles on top meant physical pain would trickle down to me later. Later that night, from the walls of a women’s shelter, I felt frozen in pure terror of what would lie ahead. All my little mind could process was you are not safe, you have no where else to go.
Memories like these are visceral ones I find myself working to uncover as a means to heal. In yoga, to experience Vidya, right perception, rather than the afflictions of an unsteady mind. The details aren’t pretty, and as Indra approaches the ages I was where my most formative memories of physical abuse began, I find myself reliving many things from my past. Not as a victim, rather as an active participant in the process. To me it’s work of acknowledging my feelings exactly as they were and where they are today, free from judgment. My dream world is my main indication of progress. The Yoga Sutras offer that meditating on dreams can produce a new level of stability of the mind. The idea is that our experiences in dreams are most reflective of our inner states, as they are free from outer world senses and influences. 
Last night I dreamt that Richard, my former step-dad, was standing outside our porch. It was raining. He hid in the dark. He was drunk, aggressively shouting things to Michael when confronted by him. While I stood in the house, my initial caution was supported by an overall experience of confidence that we were safe. That is the part that tells me I’m making progress.
Those who work with me know how much I emphasize the process of uncovering memories from the past. As a Yoga Therapist, I am frequently referring people to work with Mental Health Therapists through the uncovering of (big T) Trauma. At the same time, the process of Yoga Therapy can be invaluable throughout these stages of healing. In Ayurveda, the manas “mind” channels live in both the mind and the body. While Western treatments work to repair and optimize the functioning of the brain process, Eastern offerings tap into the innate intellect of the body. The patterns we hold all through the physical (anamayakosha), energetic (pranamayakosha) and mental (manamayakosha) all contribute to our experience of reality today. 
While many parts of my brain wish I could say the shelter was a turning point, there would be many more memories formed of flashing blue lights against many different homes, even after Richard was gone. He ended up killing himself later in life. I can only imagine the depths of his internal conflictions. By the age of 17, I had moved more than 20 times. So I went out on my own as soon as I could and a few years later I purchased my own home (still owned and one of my most beloved places in the world). The sounds of breaking glass, screaming, and eventually the tone of the dial as my fingers pressed against 9-1-1 are all pieces of memories that have helped make me who I am today. These cycles of experiences have contributed to my individual strength and perseverance in more ways that I can likely see. While sometimes challenging to embrace, new energy resources, ease of daily life, depth of connection, these are the things that keep me on the path of unveiling and revisiting the things that have happened and what I made them mean about me and my life.

All of my relationships today depend on my continuous evolution. If they don’t, then they aren’t moving me forward. I spent many years trying to forget the things of the past. So much so that I disillusioned myself to reality. Many of my filters caused me to act more like a child and experience more pain. While I still find myself throwing the occasional adult tantrum, I’m getting better. My daily mind and life are more peaceful than they have ever been. Do you feel like a better person than you did a year ago? 5 years ago? I say keep on, keepin on then. You’re doing a great job.
Sat Nam,


Written from my eyebrows on a steamy August afternoon with a growing belly!